CHRISTmas Blessings to ALL

Jesus is truly the reason for the Season. I was pondering the Christmas story of how a single woman who for all practical purposes gave birth to the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. How Kings traveled to give tribute to a baby who they recognized was royalty despite the meagerness of his birth in a manger instead of a palace. I am so thankful.
O Come let Us Adore Him, Christ the Lord
I wish everyone safe travels and happy times with their family.
Have a Blessed CHRISTmas!

Moving forward to change for 2009

I hope you are enjoying these excerpts and I hope they bless you as they have been blessing me. Today, I present
Principles 4 & 5 from "12 Principles of Change" by Lee Green from Black Business Builders Club


YOU MAKE YOUR HABITS AND THEN YOUR HABITS MAKE YOU.


You’ve probably heard the saying, “As you sow, so shall you reap.”
It means that our lives are created by what we do, not by what we
intend. It means that we can harvest only what we plant. And every
day you’re planting something, so choose wisely.

The biggest and most important influences in your life are created
by small daily acts. For example - Meditate, Study, Set Goals,
Save Money, Exercise, Floss, Smile, and Say Thank You.

When you do the right thing at the right time it makes more
difference than if you make a big dramatic effort too late.
Cramming may work in school, but not in real life. The school term
is over in a few months; life lasts longer. Days turn into years
and those years become your life.

The most important qualities in life - Spirituality, Health,
Relationships, Wealth, and Your Personal Character - are developed
by regular acts done on a daily basis. They’re called “practices.”

Daily practices - done on schedule. What? Just “can’t do anything
on a schedule?” Baloney. You can do anything you want on a
schedule, unless you’ve never gotten to a plane on time. It’s a
matter of priorities. And your priorities create your quality of
life. Choose the practices of your life as if you were a farmer.
You can’t skip spring planting if you want a fall harvest. Master
this principle and you will live your life to its fullest.
Changing your life doesn’t take a lot of work - just repeat a
single positive act daily for three weeks and it will become a
habit. Good. Now add another one. Then another one. The force of
good habits will automatically generate power and “good luck,” and
your life will blossom.

GUILT ENSLAVES YOU. RESPONSIBILITY LIBERATES YOU.

Here’s a secret about “Original sin”. It’s guilt, and you get it
from your parents.

Are you self-conscious? Most people are. They’re worried that
they’re “unzipped.” They’re walking around thinking that people
will notice their missing button, their bad hairdo, their poor
credit and personal shortcomings. These feelings are universal -
we all got them while we were being taught how to behave as infants
(”No!” “Bad!” “Don’t!”).

When we become adults we are supposed to leave these feelings of
inadequacy in childhood where they were needed.

The way to do this is to forgive your parents for their
shortcomings, whether they were minor or major. And then forgive
yourself for all your sins, real and imagined. Forgiving doesn’t
mean that you think what happened was okay. It just means that you
free yourself from the work of remembering it and getting mad at
people that may not even be around anymore. Including the younger
“you.” You MUST do this if you want to be free.
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Change in 2009 - Principle #3

12 Principles of Change- by Lee Green



3. WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT MOST IS WHAT YOU GET.

There is a Law of Attraction in human nature. What is in your mind
is reflected “out there,” in what you experience as your reality.

Afraid? Then all the goblins that you fear will be attracted to
you. The only useful purpose of fear is to remind you to plan. Plan
so that you protect yourself from harm, but don’t become timid. If
you play it TOO safe, you’ll freeze in place and trade your life
away for nothing.

Angry? Then you’ll get a lot of angry people to tussle with. Your
life will fill up with honking horns and people pushing you around,
and you’ll spend all your time pushing back.

It’s a good idea to choose your habitual thought patterns
carefully. Love, optimism and gratitude are good choices. These
states of mind inspire you to explore, to create, to grow and to
give. People and opportunities will become attracted to you. And
the goblins and angry people will get smaller and less important,
and finally they’ll fade and go away.

The point of choice comes up when you have to deal with a
challenging situation. Do you call it a “bad break” - some S.O.B.
was out to get you? Or was it just something that happened ...
leaving it up to you to interpret in the most nourishing way? You
might as well be positive. Bottom line - it works better. It makes
you easier to be around and more creative and good-natured. And
your immune system will be strengthened.

Events are just events until our thoughts and reactions turn them
into experience. What the experience means and how useful it might
be, are the choices that we make -they’re the stories we tell
ourselves about our lives.

We’re taught that it’s not ‘reasonable’ to expect to win all the
time. Nonsense! That kind of thinking numbs ambition and smothers
greatness. Even worse it leads to reasonable excuses. Excuses don’t
accomplish anything so do NOT be reasonable. Actually, achieving
the impossible is quite normal - you’ve done it thousands of times.
EVERYTHING you do now was impossible for you before you did it the
first time, from feeding yourself to balancing your checkbook.

Try this for a week. Focus on what you want instead of what you
don’t want. Practice the skills of optimism, gratitude, generosity
and forgiveness and your life will expand.

Yes, that’s right. PRACTICE.

Good attitudes are skills that you develop through repetition, just
like swimming or math. And skills become second nature through
practice. You will become stronger and more relaxed when you decide
that you might as well thrive. Your commitment to expectancy is
another skill, and it’s decisive and magnetic. It attracts luck and
creates focus. People and opportunities will be drawn to you. Life
starts to get easier. And more fun.

Go ahead and test it. What have you got to lose? The only way you
can fail at anything is to quit trying!
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Change for 2009- Principles for Change #2

Continuing our series on 12 Principles for Change by Lee Green
Black Business builders

2. YOU ARE AT THE CENTER OF YOUR UNIVERSE. STAY THERE!

As a young man growing up in the South Bronx, I learned the hard
way that I needed to take my corners wide and keep my hands out of
my pockets. In other words, I had to stay balanced, alert and ready
to react to surprises. I’ve found that a lot of life’s situations
require "street smarts". They range from the bedroom to the
boardroom, and you will encounter them throughout your life.

Keep your balance. Stay centered. Expect surprises.

Being centered has two sides; inner and outer.

Begin within.

Inner centeredness comes first; look there for your "best self". It
is how you will find peace of mind. There is a place in you that’s
connected to something beyond you. Spending time there will keep
your mind clear and your spirit refreshed. That “doorway” is your
center.

Until you’re connected to your core, you won’t be very good at
handling the rest of the world. Few people really get this. It is
the single most important and least understood fact of life.

Your center is easy to find. Every spiritual tradition in history
teaches prayer and meditation - it’s the most important thing you
can do for the quality of your life. Just take a little break a
couple of times a day, and learn to be still and RELAX. If you
give yourself this little time each day, you will become calmer,
stronger and your physical and mental health will improve. You will
begin to focus more on what you think of yourself, than what others
may think of you.

For outer centeredness, you need to gain awareness of your personal
boundaries. This is critical. Pay close attention to where you stop
and others start. Protect your personal prerogatives and respect
those of others. Allowing others to invade your boundaries will
destroy your personal freedom and subject you to their tyranny.

If you cross the boundaries of others you become codependent with
them, caring more about how they live their lives than how you live
yours. You can care about others without having to run their lives.
Let them go and feel the relief, once you get used to living only
your own life

Preparing for 2009- 12 Principles for Change

I received a powerful email from Lee Green of Black Business builders. I decided to share it with my readers. So I will be sharing it over the holiday. So here it goes.

12 Principles for Change by Lee Green- Black Business Builders

These are non-negotiable and there are no escape clauses. No
excuses are accepted. Ignore them at your own risk. Keep in mind, I
got this information over decades of living, but many people have
never learn these rules at all. And so they live in “quiet
desperation.” You don’t have to settle for that. If you consider
these facts and test them against your experience (NOT your
conditioning!), I predict you’ll adopt them, and you’ll be on your
way to a life of freedom and accomplishment.

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1. SELF-MANAGEMENT AND PEOPLE SKILLS ARE THE KEYS TO YOUR
SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS.

This is a MAJOR fact of life. And it took me a long time to get
this. If you want to be smarter than me you’ll give this first
principle serious consideration. Your skill level in these two
areas will determine the quality of your whole life. Every champion
and high achiever knows this. These simple skills are the clear
difference between winners in life, and losers.

If you learn to manage yourself you can accomplish anything you can
dream up. You can deal with negative experiences wisely and you can
add skills as you need them. You can become unstoppable. Self
management puts you on the launching pad to all the success you
desire.

Most people limit themselves by their unwillingness to consider
personal change. They won’t learn new things and they won’t change
their behaviors, even when they discover they’ve been wrong.

The funny thing is, self-change is EASY. You are the one person
that you can get to anytime you want. You don’t need permission or
an appointment, and no one can stop you from learning and changing
whenever you decide to. The only obstacle is you!

Self-management is actually the first step to building people
skills. Once you commit to changing yourself into who you can be,
you will notice the people around you in a different way. Now you
see them as fellow beings with their own fears and drives. And they
will see you with new respect and attractiveness. You are
surrounded by people who can help or harm you, based on how you
treat them. Learning how people work is a skill, just like
learning how you work. These people can multiply your efforts and
supercharge your success. It takes leadership and persuasion skills
- people skills.

People skills are like a booster rocket propelling you to your
dreams. And the process of succeeding with others can be learned
just like you learn to make toast. If you follow directions and
practice, you can develop the skills that will make you very happy
and prosperous.
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Oprah's Weight Gain Confession

So the big buzz now is all about Oprah’s weight gain confession! Geez…. You know I can relate to my girl Oprah in that department. I was looking over some pictures I took 3 years ago and realized how much of the 54 lbs I lost was put back on. Thankfully I am not at my starting weight. I vow never to go aback there again….EVER!!!

Then last night I was watching my most favorite show, “the Biggest Loser” and Bob Harper was explaining how Season 1 Biggest Loser winner Ryan Benson now weighs as much today as he did when he first came to the house. How could that be? Bob explained it was because he didn’t “learn anything”.
Okay so now you are asking what does these 3 weight loss experiences have to do with being a business owner? It has a lot to do with it. We are shaped by our experiences, both positive and negative. Our success depends on what we do with both experiences.
First- When you fail, you pick yourself up and try it again, learning from the mistakes you made before.
Second- Build on your past successes, change what you did wrong.
Recently a fellow business associate said to me “I’m about to give it up” I asked her what happened? What went wrong? She replied “I didn’t do anything with it’. Weight loss like business only is successful if we continually work on it. Once you relax, you stop losing weight and God forbid even gain back. In any business once an entrepreneur stops working on it then the income slows down to a drip drip drip.
My intentions are to do both. I’m not giving up in either venue!
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Oprah don't worry about the weight gain. It happens to the best of us!
I’m off to burn off some calories. The holidays are coming!

Joshua Persky Found a Job

Congratulations Joshua Perskey, he found a job. A blog reader who happens to work for WCBS radio 880 emailed me to let me know the good news. I wrote a blog about Joshua Perskey on another blog site.
You remember him? He's the former Wall Street Banker who spent the summer walking New York's financial district with a sandwich board and giving out resumes to anyone who would take it. Well it seems that his strategy worked!
Joshua is now working for Weiser LLP.

"The image struck a chord and went all over the world, and I started getting phone calls and email by the hundreds from all over the world," said Joshua Persky.

Who said network marketing doesn't work! Joshua Perskey proved that it does.

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