Lets not go into 2009 with a whole bunch of baggage. We need to learn how to forgive ourselves and Others. Lee Green of Black Business Builders club encourages us to just "Let it Go"
NOBODY WAKES UP IN THE MORNING CHOOSING TO BE THE VILLAIN.
Everyone alive thinks that they’re the “good guy.” He or she is the
hero in their version of the story. They have a reason for what
they do - even if it’s impractical or unworkable or has evil
People who are troublesome aren’t worth changing. Don’t even waste
time complaining about them.
If someone hurts you, it’s not about you and you shouldn’t act like
it was. People do what they do because of their own inner reality.
Learn what you can do differently the next time, then forgive them
and move on.
Really. Forgive them completely. And then, figure out how to
manage, tolerate or avoid them in the future.
By the way, forgiving doesn’t mean that you think whatever they did
is okay. It’s NOT okay. But here’s the thing - if you don’t forgive
someone you can’t ever let it go. Then you have to go around with
this burden of anger and sourness. Wasn’t the original hurt enough
for you? Why would you want to preserve it and remember it? Or them?
Carrying grudges ties up brain cells that you could use to make
life sweeter for yourself and those you love. So, after you forgive
them, forgive yourself for getting hurt - and then LET IT GO!